Showing love is not just for Valentine’s Day

showing love

 

Did you know Valentine’s Day is right around the corner?

 

Oh, right, you probably do, given the constant barrage of guilt-inducing, wallet-breaking, comparison making advertisements that are absolutely everywhere you turn.

My hubbie knows too, but he won’t be getting me anything for this red letter holiday.

I know it’s possible when you just read that, the following thought crossed your mind:

Of all the crummy, thoughtless things…the cheapskate can’t even take the time or money to recognize how much his wife—Miss Too Darn Happy—means to him?!

 

Before you judge my dear hubbie, let me explain.

 

I agree with him.

I have been blessed with a man who cherishes me all year round, who loves me in spite of my imperfections, when I feel unlovable, and in my selfishness and impatience.

Notice I did not say that he loves my imperfections and all those other not so adorable traits.

I will take that any day over a husband who thoughtlessly wanders through 364 days, then scrambles to show HOW VERY MUCH HE LOVES ME for a few short hours.

I will take that any day over being a wife who waits and plots, ready to pounce on February 15, to JUST LET HIM KNOW HOW MUCH [Continue reading...]

Patterns of Love in Your Marriage

patterns of love

 

When colors, shapes, and sounds come together, delightful patterns can be formed.

You encounter them everywhere: in the clothes you wear, the furnishings you buy, the music you hear.

While some patterns are easy to spot, some are much more subtle.

Patterns of love tend to be this less obvious type, since they develop slowly over time, mostly in small ways.

That means they need to be worked at regularly to be able to see the pattern take shape.

When you do so, you can create the pattern of a stronger, healthier, and  more joyful marriage.

 

You begin with the framework of your relationship: the warp threads.

These are the long strands that represent the span of your lives, the core of who you both are.

Strong and flexible as spider’s silk, they hold the opposing fibers—the weft threads—in place.

It is these weft threads that you choose each day, that bring in the color, texture, and more to create the beautiful tapestry of your marriage.

 

While threads and fibers are the stock in trade for the weaver, words and actions are yours.

How can you use those to create your tapestry?

Share them repeatedly and often so your spouse sees, hears, or feels your love every day.

 

For example, you can create small traditions.

Share breakfast in bed on the weekend, take leisurely walks in the evening, or host stay-at-home date nights.

Cuddle on the couch for soul talk, because you gotta have soul.

Discover his love language.

Put flirty and fun love notes in your husband’s lunchbox or briefcase reminding him what it is you adore about him.

Surprise him with inexpensive and creative gifts.

 

As Henry Ward Beecher said,

We sleep, but the loom of life never stops, and the pattern which was weaving when the sun went down is weaving when it comes up in the morning.

The secret is to be intentional about taking these small and positive steps to weave patterns of love.

Over time, you will be able to look back over the fabric of your marriage, a smile crinkling the corners of your mouth as you run your fingers over the beloved and familiar patterns, feeling the rough patches that blend into the smooth, marveling how the darker areas provide contrast and definition for the brighter ones, and knowing this work of art will continue to provide much warmth, comfort, and joy.

Comment: What are words or actions you use to create patterns of love in your marriage?

 

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